We’re back for the second installment our series from Bill Hybels’ book, Axiom. In this chapter, Bill challenges us as leaders to “Make the Big Ask”.
Let me offer a simple framework that I keep handy so that whenever God prompts me to make a big ask, I’m ready. First, it’s important to set the context. Often over a lunch table, I’ll say, “God has led me to challenge you with something today, but please know from the outset that we’ll be okay whether you accept this challenge or not. My goal here is to be obedient to God’s prompting, not to force you to do something. I have zero attachment to the course of action you choose on the back end of our discussion today. It won’t affect our friendship or my respect for you because this is not between you and me as much as it is between you and God. Are we on the same page here?”
Second, when I make the ask, I do it as clearly and succinctly as possible. On many occasions, I have sat across the dinner table from a seeker and said, “Tonight’s the night I’m going to ask you to receive Christ. You may not be ready, and that will be fine, but I want to briefly review how God’s love can change a human heart and then give you an opportunity to respond.”
I’ve sat across from marketplace people and said, “In a few minutes, I’m going to ask you to consider joining our ministry staff. Before I do that, though, I want to give you four reasons why I am challenging you to join our ministry team. When I am done, I really want you to pray about leaving your job and coming on board with our staff.”
After making the ask, I always suggest that the other person take it before God and then get back to me in an agreed-upon amount of time. “Could we meet again in a week [or two, or four] to see where you are with this?” I ask. Sometimes that subsequent meeting yields a no. But just as frequently I’ve had people return to me with a “Hey, I’m in! I brought your request to God, and he gave me a green light!”
What is a challenging ask you’ve had to make as a ministry leader? What strategies are most helpful as you set out to make an ask?
Thanks to Bill Hybels for sharing his words from the book Axiom. To read more and to find Bill’s other titles check out our resources at willowcreek.com.



